Dating advice phone call
As the fear of losing him as opposed to the joy of having him around. If you cruise down the highway thinking “I really don’t want to crash”, what’s going to happen? And if you think “I really don’t want to come off as needy and drive him away”, you are probably going to come off as needy and drive him away. So instead of thinking “I don’t want to lose him” (which is the root of why you want to call him, needily, and also why you don’t want to call him, so you don’t seem needy, which is still neediness), think, “Gosh, I really like my man and I’d like to speak to him and convey to him how great he is and how much I appreciate him and love talking to him!
” In fact, I find it interesting that you should be worried that your calling him is a burden ever happen?
I have been debating even asking you as it seemed trivial at first, however I don’t feel that it is.
Here it is: It really frustrates me that when I don’t see him, that we barely speak on the phone…It’s just that I would like to talk to him more when I’m not able to see him and when I don’t, I feel disconnected.
In other words, create a baseline according to perceive them: “Oh, he’s a guy, he wants to go in his cave, I really don’t want to bother him, let him be free etc.” Now you’re calling him every other day — say, Mon, Wed, Fri (Scenario B). And if they aren’t compatible with his needs, maybe you shouldn’t be together anyway.
Now if you call him on a Thursday, he’s going to notice a deviation from baseline and wonder what’s up. A man will only love you for who really are, not who you’re pretending to be.
Similarly, if every time that you call him you make him feel like a trillion bucks, there’s really no upper limit to how often you can call him. She does crave companionship and connection — sometimes more than her man.
But the fourth call in Scenario A is more likely to be welcome than the one in Scenario B. 3) Trust your intuition without dumping on him too much.
I really appreciate your advice and have listened to your CD over and over again.
I also followed your Tao of Dating principles, which was beyond enlightening for me, as it turned the tables and made me responsible for doing my own housework and trying to be the goddess and I still think ‘What would a goddess do?
We have great communication, great attraction, share the same values, have fun together, etc. We see each other as much as possible, however with his child and my work schedule, it’s sometimes not as much as we would like.
At any rate it is one of the best, if not the best, relationship, I have ever been in, however there is only one thing that bothers me and that I don’t know how to address it.